Most of us have, at one time or another, allowed an undesirable situation to remain in place because we simply did not want to change it. Self defeat is amazingly common, although few people will own up to it.

Someone will say the law of attraction doesn’t work because they don’t appear to be getting what they want. In truth they are getting what is aligned with their real beliefs, hence attraction is very real and at play.

It’s easy to say we want one thing while deep down we are fine struggling and suffering. As bizare as this sounds just a little study of the people around you, and of yourself, will reveal the truth.

Often our fear of change, even positive change, will keep us from moving forward. It’s easier to keep complaining and suffering that to jump into the unknown.

Also, there is the very common feeling of not deserving the thing we actually desire. The truth is what we do or don’t deserve is totally decided by us.

Divinity wants to heap blessings onto us beyond anything we could possibly dream of, yet many times we put a stop to this because we don’t feel worthy.

This self sabotage is at the same time a fascinating phenomenon and a sad reality.

Most of us have a lot of work to do in clearing negative beliefs before we can really manifest what divinity has to offer us. But before we can do that we must admit that we are allowing ourselves to suffer, and in fact at times we are even demanding it.

It’s a lot to take in. But those who are thinking from the higher mind, and who can put the ego aside for just a moment, will see the truth.

Well all say we want the best out of life. We talk about getting rich, being in love, and getting into great shape.

But many people - myself included at one time in my life - don’t really feel like we deserve the best life has to offer. Consider these questions carefully and honestly:

When you have plenty of money in the bank do you ever feel uncomfortable and have the unexplainable urge to blow it?

When you are in a good relationship with someone do you think there must be a limit to how long it can last because it’s “just normal” for relationships to go bad at some point?

When things are going really great for you in life, do you feel on edge and as if something major and bad is going to hit you at any moment?

If you can identify with these or other related feelings, you probably have some worthiness issues. While this is common, it should not be considered “normal” or healthy self esteem.

The truth is you deserve to have a great life. The divine wants you to be happy and blessed, and there is no need to feel uncomfortable or embarassed when things are looking up for you.

PRactice immersing yourself in the ideal life, even if this means imagining it, and really feel at home. Know on a deep level that you are supposed to be in a state of bliss and satisfaction.

You honestly deserve this. Don’t rob yourself of an exciting life by not letting yourself have the happiness that is rightfully yours!

For many of us, there is a subtle energy within us that works to derail our highest goals. Maybe we’re afriad of failure, but in many cases we’re scared of success.

For instance, if you ever get nervous when things are going really well, you are struggling with self sabotage issues. Maybe you feel a disaster must be just around the corner if things are going to plan for you, or perhaps you just can’t emotionally handle it when things are good.

This is more common than most people realize. It’s pretty crazy, and you can actually live out your life without ever realizing this unless you take the time to observe, or unless a friend points it out for you. Watch yourself; do you handle success and happines well?

If you feel discomfort when things are going well for you, I urge you to watch your thoughts and feelings closely. Try to identify how you feel - is it nervousness, irritability, or something else?

Becoming aware is the first step. Once you catch yourself entertaining this kind of subtle, self defeating energy, simply replace it with positive affirmations and visualizations. I also recommend you use basic meditation to help you direct your energies, and check out one or more other studies such as EFT (emotional freedom technique), Yoga, or Ho’oponopono.

The fact that you know what is going on means you have the power to change things. And ultimately this is about your knowing you deserve greatness.